Have you ever had that "Groundhog Day" moment in your romantic life? Perhaps you’ve just ended a relationship with someone who felt "emotionally unavailable," only to realize three months later that your new partner is effectively the same person in a different jacket. Or maybe you find yourself having the exact same argument—the one about "not being heard" or "needing space"—regardless of who you are actually dating.

In the high-stakes world of leadership, we are often taught that success is the result of strategy, grit, and "holding people accountable." But if you’ve ever led a team that seemed paralyzed by the fear of making a mistake, or a department where innovation has stalled despite high salaries, you aren’t facing a strategic problem—you’re perhaps facing an attachment problem.