Have you ever had a day where a tiny inconvenience—like spilling your coffee or someone cutting you off in traffic—made you feel like exploding with rage or bursting into tears?

Alternatively, have you ever experienced moments of high stress where you didn’t fight or cry, but instead went entirely numb, detached, and found yourself staring blankly at a wall, unable to process a single thought?

When our emotional reactions feel this extreme, it is incredibly common to ask ourselves…

In our modern, high-performance culture, "busy" is often worn as a badge of honour. We celebrate the packed calendar, the side hustle, and the ability to juggle a thousand balls without dropping one. But as a psychotherapist, I often look at a "perfectly" busy life and ask a different question: What is all this activity protecting you from?

In the high-stakes world of leadership, we are often taught that success is the result of strategy, grit, and "holding people accountable." But if you’ve ever led a team that seemed paralyzed by the fear of making a mistake, or a department where innovation has stalled despite high salaries, you aren’t facing a strategic problem—you’re perhaps facing an attachment problem.