It might sound like something a psychotherapist would say, but the evidence is robust. The way you learned to connect, or not connect, as a child, created a kind of emotional blueprint for all your future relationships.

Ever found yourself inexplicably picking a fight with a perfectly lovely partner? Or perhaps you've noticed a pattern of gravitating towards relationships that feel… well, a bit turbulent? You're not alone. Sometimes, even when we consciously yearn for a healthy and fulfilling romance, our unconscious minds can steer us towards familiar, albeit unhealthy, patterns. It's a perplexing phenomenon, but one that psychotherapy research sheds valuable light on.