For many high-achieving men, anxiety is treated like a faulty "check engine" light on a dashboard. The instinct is to find a way to switch it off, ignore it, or—if you’re particularly driven—tape over it so you can keep on driving. You might view your racing heart, tight chest, or restless mind as a biological "glitch" that interferes with your performance and your logic.

But what if that anxiety isn’t a mistake? What if it is a sophisticated, albeit uncomfortable, piece of communication from your body?

If you’ve spent a lifetime viewing emotions as a threat to your logic or your control, you likely oscillate between two extremes: Total Suppression (the "Emotional Hangover" where everything is pushed down until it numbs you) or Total Overwhelm (the "Flooding" where anger or anxiety hits like a tidal wave).

In therapy, we don't just talk about feelings; we learn the skill of Emotional Regulation. This isn't about "policing" your emotions—it’s about expanding your capacity to sit with them without being swept away.