The UK Government recently announced a new curriculum aimed at tackling "misogyny" and "toxic masculinity" among schoolboys. While the stated goal of fostering respect and safety is noble, the proposed method—a state-mandated curriculum focusing on the "flaws" of masculinity—is deeply concerning.

As a psychotherapist, I've seen first-hand how this ingrained message fuels a relentless pressure to conform, leading to what Dr. John Barry calls the male gender script. This script dictates that men must be independent, stoic, competitive, and above all, emotionally invulnerable. And it’s slowly, quietly, hurting men.

The Male Gender Script, with its rigid expectations and enforced emotional repression, is a key driver of the current male mental health crisis. The pressures from modern feminism, misandry, capitalism, the labour market, postmodernism, and automation only serve to worsen the psychological toll on men and boys.

The emotional pain men experience following a breakup, especially when their partner quickly moves on, is multifaceted and deeply rooted in psychological constructs of self-esteem, self-concept, masculinity, and shame. By addressing these issues in therapeutic settings and challenging harmful societal norms, men can begin to heal, emerging stronger and more self-aware.